At this point in my life I have realized we all have those members of our family that will try our patience, tolerance, physical and emotional limits. No family is immune. There is at least one in every family I know.
Most of the time they are just crazy enough that we find them amusing and they are a lot of fun to be around. But then there are the ones that will divide, destroy and alienate everyone in the family. Where do you draw the line with family members you love?
I personally feel that when that person does not want to help themselves and is a danger to those around them it is time to put foot in their ass. When they are so self- centered and bent on self-destruction that they don’t care who they destroy in the process it is time to limit their victims to only themselves. Blame it on whatever mental impairment you want to,drugs, or alcohol.... there is no excuse in enabling these people to destroy everyone and everything in their path.
When you have tried to do the right thing and get them help … and it doesn’t help, it may be time for the end of the line tough love. To cease enabling these people to continue on their disastrous path and facilitating the crash to their own personal “rock bottom” may be the best gift you could ever give them. It may work… it may not work but in many cases you do not have a choice. They have to want to help themselves.
Here in the South, hopefully they end up being one of those relatives that are just crazy enough that we don’t lock them away…