Thursday, January 29, 2015

Twenty Somethings, Thirty Somethings and the Mid Lifers

As we go through life it is easy to look back and see how we have progressed, matured and changed. We evaluate our successes and failures. I think that is called “learning from experience”.

 We also look at those we love through the same experienced eyes. We see how we have changed versus how they have changed. It can either make us proud or make us take a longer harder look at ourselves.

I see people in their 20’s getting married and I can’t help but scratch my head and wonder how in the hell can they possibly be ready? I was in my 30’s when I got married and I still don’t know how I did it then. Throw some kids in the mix and I just feel like there is no way anyone should get married before they are 30 years old.  Now, there is something to be said for those that married early, had kids early and now they are in their 40s with grown children and the rest of their life free and clear to do as they want. I have a wonderful friend that is in this very situation. After floundering a little and wondering what the hell she was going to do with all her free time she decided to go back to school and get a college degree. Why not? In this “in between time”, after her girls are grown and before she becomes a granny, she has the perfect window of time to travel, educate and enjoy herself. I won’t get that till I am in my late 50’s. God Bless Her. I hope she can take some time and hang out with me when I get there.

I can’t imagine myself if I had done the same things at an earlier age. I have two other friends that find themselves single in their 40’s. One, due to circumstances beyond her control and the other by choice. Both these ladies have blossomed in their single-dom and they should be proud of what they have accomplished because they have risen above their circumstances and have proven to themselves they are survivors and champions!
Only one of my friends is left and she is in the same boat as I am … two kids, home, husband, all star travel sports teams and a life so busy she is lucky she finds time to sleep


We are all “mid lifers” now .Three of my four friends find themselves now in their prime with the time get to know themselves and love who they are. I did that in my late 20’s so I am a bit backwards. In the end it is all about knowing who you are, loving who you are and accepting who you are. The older we get the less we are concerned about fitting in with others and more concerned about those fitting with in with us. That is what makes these four lovely ladies I call my closest friends so very special. Now that we are in our 40’s we know who we are and we can enjoy each other without judgment. We have all known each other for what seems like at least half our lives. We are the advice givers, cheerleaders, shoulders and pillars of strength for each other and for that I am a very blessed.